What matters to me in the heart of this conversation is that you never feel like you have to make decisions for yourselves from a place of self hatred.
I hope you don’t get on an exercise bike because you hate yourself.
I hope you don’t get cosmetic surgery because you want to look like someone else.
I hope you don’t drown yourself in oversized clothes because you feel your shape is unworthy to be seen.
I hope you aren’t drowning in debt because of measures to fix yourself.
I hope you’re aren’t feeling depressed and exhausted because nothing is never enough.
Living from a place of self hatred is always going to create more hatred, self worth issues, and anxiety. It will never lead you to happiness.
True happiness comes from within
There are people who have been their unhappiest at their lowest weight, unhappiest when caked in makeup, unhappiest when counting calories and measuring food for each meal of every day. There are also others who have been their happiest when they’re doing yoga 5 times a week, when they finally got that cosmetic work to their teeth that gave them the smile they always wanted, or happiest when they finally decided to stop coloring their hair.
What has worked for others will not work for you! The more you look to the outside world for those keys to happiness, the further away you’ll get.