While I can’t tell you what to do, only you can make the best decisions you can for yourself and those whose lives your decisions affect, here are a few important things to keep in mind:
1) Have A Plan In Place
Trying to stick to some kind of boundary without a plan is like trying to hoist your body up against a door that someone’s trying to break through. Sure it can be effective in the moment, but you’re in a constant state of tug and war and eventually you’ll get tired, they’ll break through, and your tactics will have to change.
Creating a plan you can stick with looks like getting really clear about your what, why, and how. What’s the heart of the issue, why this matters to you, and how you need to move forward.
Try the great boundary setting technique that includes making sure your how involves only you. Your boundaries cannot change other people’s behaviors but rather your own. (Example, if you can’t talk on the phone between 8-5 while you’re working you can’t simply demand others not to call you, but you can not answer their calls.)