When you are hurting or in a dark place, I want you to remember that it doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you. It doesn’t mean you haven’t worked hard enough on your life, or hard enough on whatever is in front of you. Darkness is not the same as bad, just as the lighter parts of our life aren’t “good.”
It’s easy to make this connection because we like feeling joyful, successful; we like when things are easy. We want this. We connect positive feelings to having done a good job. In fact this has been affirmed to use over and over in our lives. But when things don’t work out in your favor, when you’ve come to a place of failure in your life, or things didn’t work out how you thought they were supposed to- the negative feelings: the stress, frustration, disappointment, fear, sadness, rejection; those don’t mean you’ve done a bad job. It’s not the same.
The darkness is just as normal a part of our life as the light. The heaviness is a part of the story too. For every valley we move through, there are also peaks. There’s nothing to be ashamed of.