One of the first ways we give ourselves away with dishonesty is when what we say doesn’t match what we do. We may commit to something we didn’t want to do for someone else, and suddenly we’re half-assing it, or passive aggressively completing the task.
From the other side of this, another example is when someone told you to your face they had your back only to find out they hadn’t. And of course infidelity, broken promises, all of this are classic examples of what someone says not aligning with what they’re doing.
When your words and actions aren’t in alignment, even when you’re covering up the truth with “harmless” white lies- you’re letting yourself and others down. The stress of managing the lie can become so much, and can consume you. And all while this is happening, the truth is in the air like a water before it rains.