One topic that I’m very passionate about is not comparing yourself to others. Even though I’ve felt this way for a long time, I still find myself scrolling through social media and suddenly feeling bad about myself because I don’t do what someone else does.
For me, it’s usually on instagram, and it’s usually posts from people I feel like I *should* be like, or who I envy because I feel like they’re cooler than I’ll ever be. But the thing is, these triggers are really just opportunities for me to look at these tender little wounds that I have- places where insecurities need to be healed and where love for myself is needed.
What Triggers You?
This is definitely not simple. One strategy I use right away is to stop following people who trigger me. If I’m constantly seeing things that make me feel bad about myself, then I’m making it that much harder on myself. Let’s not do that. Another strategy is to ask yourself, do you *really* want to be like that? Do you really want to have that? Or, do you just feel like having or being that will make you more successful? Or struggle less? Really challenging ourselves here will bring conscious clarity that is much needed.
Finally, remember that’s we ALL have things that we struggle with. What others post on social media is very often not their entire lives. We’ve all seen it where a couple we’ve envied suddenly breaks up “out of nowhere” or a friend we haven’t talked to in forever but just have seen through social media shares about her struggles with getting pregnant, etc. You may think you’re the only one struggling with what you’re going through- but you’re not. We’ve all struggled in our own way, and it’s a constant journey.
Each of us are so incredibly valuable, brilliant, and beautiful EXACTLY as who we are right now. We don’t need to be like anyone else, have what they have, show what they show, or do what they do. Our only job is to be ourselves. That’s why it’s so important that we stop comparing ourselves to others.
On my episode of the A Bit From Within podcast this week I’ll dive more into this topic and share more about my own triggers and how I’ve worked through them. I’ll also dive into my take on this Aquarius energy we’ve got going on this month and how to use it for our highest good. You can listen below or wherever you get your podcasts!
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