Even while in periods where self sabotaging is coming up for you, it’s important not to let that stop you from trying. It doesn’t mean you can’t try again, or that when you DO take steps to choose you that they don’t mean anything. Sometimes you have to take it one step at a time. You can ALWAYS try again, and you should keep trying. Every time is practice your body can remember.
Self Care Obstacle 4: Your Expectations Are Too High
An all or nothing mentality can be just as damaging as any of the other self care obstacles. Having high expectations around self care activities, and then not having the time, money, or resources to do those activities the way you desire to can be enough to not want to do them at all. This is when you have to readjust your expectations.
This can be super challenging because you probably have big expectations for good reasons. In fact, as an astrologer, I know that for some people having nice and luxuries things can be a make it or break it difference in how they experience an activity. So, as you readjust your expectations, don’t start with the hardest things to let go of.
Let’s look at taking a bath as an example. Even if you don’t have the most ideal bathroom or bathtub, it doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy taking a bath on occassion. Maybe a little mood lighting, bath salts or essential oils will change how you feel! And if that doesn’t work for you then you could see if there’s any local hot springs that have day rates so you could still relax in the water instead of simply never doing it at all.
Don’t be so black or white with your self care expectations. It never has to be perfect. You don’t have to do an hour + a day in order for it to mean something- sometimes even 5 minute self care ideas are GREAT starters for prioritizing yourself.