I’ll tell you what I believe:
- Not one of us needs someone else’s unsolicited advice.
- Not one of us needs to be made to feel that we haven’t been doing the best that we can.
- Not one of us needs to feel like we’re bad because we’re going through a hard season in life.
What we need now more than ever are hugs, and I’m sorry’s, I understands, and fuck the system; we need reminders of how strong we are, and to be around those who will laugh with us at all the craziness in life that we cannot control. We need friends who we can call to share the hard stuff, and be met with unwavering support.
So whether you’re craving that kind of friendship- or you hadn’t thought that maybe your friends are needing this right now- I urge you to remember to be a good listener, now more than ever. Put yourself in someone else’s shoes and remember that they are trying, and perhaps even silently struggling.
And even if you feel viciously protective, and you want to start giving them the advice that would “surely change their lives”- perhaps, don’t. Let them instead be in the important presence of your company. Hold space for them. At the very least, let the know you’re thinking of them and sending them love. And if you can, allow them to feel safe in sharing the darkness that’s on their mind. Maybe in doing so, you will help them to take a step out of that darkness.