I believe that my resistance to feedback comes from two main areas. First, a lack of trust in others. And second, from the fact that I’m already so hard on myself and put myself under so much pressure to make conscious well thought-out decisions.
When you’ve gone through a problem twenty ways over in your head, thought through the pitfalls, obstacles, and carefully chosen the a path forward- to be met with criticism that takes for granted everything you had to work through to reach that decision- it’s not an easy place to be. So often, this feels like the unsolicited feedback conversations that I’ve had in my life. And those are not conversations I’m very interested in having.
However, when someone has genuine insight for you, they ask questions to get the context, and want to share thoughtful criticism- that to me is a conversation I’m highly interested in having.