“Do you think I’m weird?” This was the question a little girl asked her mom on their drive home from school.
Instead of following the impulse to reassure her daughter of how smart, awesome, and NOT weird she was, instead she asked, “What do you mean?”
With that one question, she learned that her daughter wondered why the boys in her class didn’t want to play with her, only other girls did. They then had a more specific conversation about the playground, and social dynamics. And yet, it’s crazy to think how they may have haver had that connection had the Mom rushed to only answer the original question.
I can really relate to the young girl. I often find myself asking questions to jumpstart a specific conversation instead of getting to the exact heart of what I want to talk about. Do you ever do this?
Our minds can do this without thinking. It’s a social habit. We naturally communicate with inferred meaning all the time- very nuanced. But just think how much we’re could be missing out on!